How Dating Works as a Bald Woman

Bald woman on dating

The diagnosis of alopecia, an autoimmune disease that causes hair loss, can cause a woman’s life to change drastically as they learn to deal with the unique challenges that come with being a bald woman. Alopecia affects around two per cent of the Australian population, that’s close to half a million people – so it may just be more common than you think!

The thing about alopecia is that apart from the fact you’re losing your hair, nothing else is physically wrong with you. If you see a bald woman on the street most people automatically assume she has cancer or some other serious underlying condition that has caused her hair loss. This is not the case with woman suffering from alopecia – however this common misconception and many others to do with female hair loss mean things like dating can be very hard as a bald woman.

Living with Female Hair Loss

Michelle Law, a sufferer of alopecia areata, has been bald for the majority of her dating life and for the past three years has had no hair on her head, no eyebrows and has lost most of her eyelashes. This makes dating hard, particularly as a young woman whose physical appearance is weighted above all else by those around her.

“I wear a wig in public simply because it makes everyday interactions easier and means I can avoid questions about cancer, religious extremism and what is endlessly baffling, lesbianism."

Before each date, Michelle runs through a checklist of questions in her head, most of which concern the wig she wears. Questions like; will it be windy? Is it cold enough to wear a hat for added security? What if he feels the base of my wig while we're kissing? If my wig  falls off do I explain myself or act surprised? However If the right guy came along, he'd be comfortable with the truth — which he did, and he is.

“I imagine if my baldness were exposed, both of us would be startled, before saying an awkward goodbye and then never speaking again. He would relay it as a humorous anecdote at parties. I would die alone, bald and sassy and surrounded by stray animals.”

Everyday life can be a terrifying prospect for a bald woman, let alone the idea of going on a date! Society has negatively portrayed female hair loss and this is what we have all been conditioned to. When your dateability is intertwined with your physical appearance, being a bald woman can make you feel like you don't have options. Losing your hair doesn't physically hurt, but it can be highly traumatic for a lot of women. This can lead to a warped view of self-worth and confidence, and sideways glances on the street can make a bald woman feel as though the only attention they deserve is anything but romantic.

Here at Transitions Hair for Women we have seen this time and time again and we want to help you get back out there! Whether it be the dating world or just feeling confident in yourself. Our wigs for women have helped many women with alopecia feel like themselves again, and have the confidence to be themselves a well! Call us today on 1300 427 778 to arrange a free consultation with one of our hair loss specialists and start your journey to great looking hair today!